Feeling Is Healing

Life has been quite turbulent over the last few years and I have realised that it doesn’t matter how much work you do on yourself, there is always more to peel back and heal.

I have been battling a herniated disc and pinched nerves in my back for the third time in 5 years. It flared up almost 12 months ago and I am still battling unpredictable symptoms and nerve pain. I have struggled to accept that this is my life for now and battling chronic pain once again is not an easy task, physically or mentally. But I have very slowly learnt to approach life differently and be open to letting go of all the things I can’t do (for now), including exercising and scuba diving and instead focusing on all the things that I can do such as walking, swimming, working and healing.

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Even though it has been challenging, I am grateful that this latest herniated disc episode has provided me the opportunity to really dig deep and peel the layers off this physical pain and open up the wounds that lay beneath (suppressed emotions and traumas).

The truth is that we all have these suppressed emotions and after a while they catch up with us in many different forms (anxiety, depression, physical pain, disease etc). It is important to really acknowledge all our emotions and really feel them because feeling all kinds of emotions is part of our human experience. Even those unpleasant emotions need to be acknowledged and felt to be released (I will elaborate on this below).

The one thing I have really learnt is that healing can be a slow journey and a not so pleasant one at times. It is important to be kind and gentle with ourselves and remember that it is okay not to like our current circumstances or how we are feeling but it is also vital we keep acknowledging how far we have come in reaching our goals.

To Truly Heal You Must Feel

Feeling ALL emotions is healthy…

It is important to know that it is a normal and healthy part of being a human being for us to experience all types of emotions. It is normal to feel sad, angry, frustrated, joyous, excited etc. This is something I really try and get across to my child and adolescent clients but also to my adult ones too.

If we look at our emotional expression as a spectrum of colours or a crayon box, then we can look at each emotion as vital in our human experience because each colour in a crayon box serves a purpose. Some colours are used more than others and we all have our favourite colours, which are usually our pleasant emotions.

Of course, there are emotions that are not pleasant to feel and when we are experiencing these emotions we usually want to resist them and want them to go away.

Most of us have learnt somewhere along the way that certain emotions should be suppressed. For example, it is socially unacceptable to show certain emotions in a workplace, such as anger or frustration.

Also, some of us have learnt, usually as a child, to suppress certain emotions by being told certain things like ‘crying is weak’ or ‘showing anger is bad’. This has been programmed into our subconscious mind and we continue to suppress certain emotions for the rest of our lives. We may have witnessed our parents struggling with sadness or depression and then fight our own sadness and depression by pretending it doesn’t exist by using food, drugs, alcohol etc to bury it deeper and deeper.

Unfortunately, suppressing emotions can lead to a range of different symptoms, disorders, diseases and physical pain. E-motions are energy (energy in motion) and if that energy is not acknowledged and released, then it can get stuck and a build up of this in our body begins to cause issues of dis-ease.

So what can you do about it?

Write down all the emotions you don’t like to feel (sadness, anger, grief etc). Ask yourself why they make you feel uncomfortable. Did one of your parents make you feel bad for expressing anger or did one of your parents drink away their sadness? Then the first step is to acknowledge this emotion when it arises and really feel it.

I am not saying that if you are angry to go and punch someone, but perhaps allow yourself permission to express it some other way. Where appropriate go and sit in your car and scream or find a pillow and scream into it. Expressing anger in a healthy way is good for your health because suppressing it can make you sick in the long run.

Of course if you are struggling with debilitating sadness, depression or anxiety, then seek a professional for help as you will require someone who is trained in mental health to help you and take small steps.

The beauty of EFT and mindfulness meditation is that we learn to acknowledge these emotions and allow ourselves permission to feel them until they pass and this is what truly heals. If you have heard the saying ‘to truly heal you must feel‘, this is what it means.

Next time you feel anger, frustration, sadness or whatever emotion you feel like resisting, allow yourself the opportunity to feel it to be able to release it. Write it down in your journal, do some tapping or sit with it until it passes.

By taking these steps you will be doing both your mental and physical health the world of good!

Daniella Goranic

About Daniella Goranic

Daniella Goranic is a qualified advanced Emotional Freedom Technique and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner. She also teaches meditation and offers group meditation and EFT workshops.

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Daniella Goranic
EFT & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
111 Dartford Rd
Thornleigh NSW 2120